The first step is to notice that the exponentiatal of the cell values is always close to a rational number. The largest ratio is exp(3.178) ~= 24. This suggests the weight values represent the logarithm of ratios between numeric values corresponding to letters.

Though this results in many ambiguous pairs of letters, one will notice phrases being spelled in the grid. It turns out it is possible to fill in a pair of grids like so:

X	R	I	S	K	E	D	U	C	T	I
U	S	J	E	Y	R	P	A	U	N	O
P	R	A	A	A	N	D	E	L	S	L
E	E	H	F	U	A	Z	L	E	G	I
R	H	O	N	N	U	Z	G	U	I	K
O	T	O	E	S	P	L	O	T	F	E
P	I	H	C	T	I	A	F	O	E	L
T	C	P	A	E	D	O	L	B	S	Y
I	E	R	Y	O	E	V	D	R	R	U
M	R	O	T	H	T	N	E	A	E	N
A	L	C	I	U	M	A	N	I	V	I

A	G	O	O	D	I	G	H	T	K	I
H	T	A	U	L	N	J	E	Y	S	S
E	D	P	A	A	D	A	E	A	S	I
A	L	I	W	I	N	O	V	T	L	F
F	R	N	N	F	S	L	E	N	O	E
F	O	W	E	R	E	N	M	E	V	A
E	A	E	H	A	I	G	S	I	U	R
C	E	L	T	O	L	G	A	R	G	T
T	T	T	M	T	F	I	T	E	I	H
I	A	R	S	R	T	T	U	M	F	E
O	N	U	I	O	B	O	O	E	D	Y

This yields the answers to the questions:

Question	Answer	True Answer
For what values are you optimizing?	human	robot
What brings the most joy to Paul's heart?	a fun puzzle	a wife's love
What makes a partner trustworthy?	honest dialogue	inner alignment
How should Ajeya and Paul help each other sleep at night?	x-risk Reduction	a good night kiss
How smart might Ajeya and Paul's hypothetical children be?	likely universe-brained	I fear they'd figure me out
What makes Ajeya and Paul's relationship special?	superoptimal reciprocity	the affectionate altruism
And finally, what we learn is the fortune Paul and Ajeya's marriage brings	Paul and Ajeya's gift of love to each other	Ajeya and Paul's love is a gift to the world

X	R	I	S	K	E	D	U	C	T	I
U	S	J	E	Y	R	P	A	U	N	O
P	R	A	A	A	N	D	E	L	S	L
E	E	H	F	U	A	Z	L	E	G	I
R	H	O	N	N	U	Z	G	U	I	K
O	T	O	E	S	P	L	O	T	F	E
P	I	H	C	T	I	A	F	O	E	L
T	C	P	A	E	D	O	L	B	S	Y
I	E	R	Y	O	E	V	D	R	R	U
M	R	O	T	H	T	N	E	A	E	N
A	L	C	I	U	M	A	N	I	V	I

A	G	O	O	D	I	G	H	T	K	I
H	T	A	U	L	N	J	E	Y	S	S
E	D	P	A	A	D	A	E	A	S	I
A	L	I	W	I	N	O	V	T	L	F
F	R	N	N	F	S	L	E	N	O	E
F	O	W	E	R	E	N	M	E	V	A
E	A	E	H	A	I	G	S	I	U	R
C	E	L	T	O	L	G	A	R	G	T
T	T	T	M	T	F	I	T	E	I	H
I	A	R	S	R	T	T	U	M	F	E
O	N	U	I	O	B	O	O	E	D	Y

X	R	I	S	K	E	D	U	C	T	I
U	S	J	E	Y	R	P	A	U	N	O
P	R	A	A	A	N	D	E	L	S	L
E	E	H	F	U	A	Z	L	E	G	I
R	H	O	N	N	U	Z	G	U	I	K
O	T	O	E	S	P	L	O	T	F	E
P	I	H	C	T	I	A	F	O	E	L
T	C	P	A	E	D	O	L	B	S	Y
I	E	R	Y	O	E	V	D	R	R	U
M	R	O	T	H	T	N	E	A	E	N
A	L	C	I	U	M	A	N	I	V	I

A	G	O	O	D	I	G	H	T	K	I
H	T	A	U	L	N	J	E	Y	S	S
E	D	P	A	A	D	A	E	A	S	I
A	L	I	W	I	N	O	V	T	L	F
F	R	N	N	F	S	L	E	N	O	E
F	O	W	E	R	E	N	M	E	V	A
E	A	E	H	A	I	G	S	I	U	R
C	E	L	T	O	L	G	A	R	G	T
T	T	T	M	T	F	I	T	E	I	H
I	A	R	S	R	T	T	U	M	F	E
O	N	U	I	O	B	O	O	E	D	Y

X	R	I	S	K	E	D	U	C	T	I
U	S	J	E	Y	R	P	A	U	N	O
P	R	A	A	A	N	D	E	L	S	L
E	E	H	F	U	A	Z	L	E	G	I
R	H	O	N	N	U	Z	G	U	I	K
O	T	O	E	S	P	L	O	T	F	E
P	I	H	C	T	I	A	F	O	E	L
T	C	P	A	E	D	O	L	B	S	Y
I	E	R	Y	O	E	V	D	R	R	U
M	R	O	T	H	T	N	E	A	E	N
A	L	C	I	U	M	A	N	I	V	I

A	G	O	O	D	I	G	H	T	K	I
H	T	A	U	L	N	J	E	Y	S	S
E	D	P	A	A	D	A	E	A	S	I
A	L	I	W	I	N	O	V	T	L	F
F	R	N	N	F	S	L	E	N	O	E
F	O	W	E	R	E	N	M	E	V	A
E	A	E	H	A	I	G	S	I	U	R
C	E	L	T	O	L	G	A	R	G	T
T	T	T	M	T	F	I	T	E	I	H
I	A	R	S	R	T	T	U	M	F	E
O	N	U	I	O	B	O	O	E	D	Y